Concern) Do you know about empty nest syndrome? Changes in roles

I am a mother of two daughters. I am in my mid-60s, and my daughters are 36 and 30 years old.

Everyone is overage.

However, the youngest was also seasick and struggled, so they became independent in July.

And I live with my older child and the third one.

The older child is also preparing to become independent near the headquarters.

 

One day, the older child, who had been working at the headquarters until recently, said they would sleep over at a friend's house, so only the two couples were left.

However, when I wake up and go to the bathroom, the emptiness of the big house makes me feel a sense of loneliness.

 

While I hope the children get married, I can't help but worry about what will happen when they actually leave after getting married, and after using the bathroom, I can't sleep.

 

The older child has studied abroad as an exchange student or for further education in Taiwan, France, Shanghai, and Beijing, so we haven't lived together at times.

The little child never felt such emotions even when studying abroad in Canada or living in university dormitories.

 

Everyone got good jobs, and I retired together with my husband.

It's already been 6 years since I retired, and my husband has re-employed at a related organization and is working there.

There is no significant financial hardship.

 

But thinking that my children are leaving like this, emotional loneliness and a sense of loss come rushing in.

I find it difficult to accept the changes as children leave.

 

Even while working, I have been excessively immersed in playing the role of a fence for my two daughters rather than socializing with friends.

Currently, I am experiencing a sense of crisis due to the role change as a mother.

The completion of the most important task in my life

Children's independence is perceived as a more serious crisis involving the division of family members.

The growth and independence of daughters weaken the bond with me.

My future makes me feel that nothing is certain.

I feel a loss of identity and emptiness, and loneliness and depression suddenly overwhelm me, bringing about a sense of sadness.

The so-called "empty nest syndrome" that I only knew in theory is troubling me.