Sleep training has become even more difficult due to bedtime resistanceㅠ It's so exhausting (long message, please be cautiousㅠ)

It's a 4-month-old, 135-day-old babyㅠ

I'm really struggling these days.. Please help me.

Day and night, I try to put him to sleep because he's sleepy, but he cries too much.

I think I did a poor job with sleep trainingㅠ

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I raised it at my parents' house until the 50th.

Mom and Dad told me not to cry and to hug meㅠ

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After coming home for two months, my husband insisted that sleep training was essential, closed the door, and started crying.

After arguing with me and waiting patiently for 15 to 20 minutes, she got so exhausted from crying that she finally fell asleepㅠ

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If it doesn't work, try soothing them by staying nearby and comforting them for about 30 minutes until they cry themselves to sleep.

I thought it would be okay even if I couldn't sleep alone without crying.

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After more than 100 days, her crying has actually worsened, she screams, chokes on her saliva, and throws tantrums until her mom comes, crying nonstopㅠ

It seems to cry more intensely when it cries on its own. When I go, its whole body turns red, and it becomes covered in tears, then it stops.

Start crying even louder until I hug you. If you get tired of crying and fall asleep, I will wake you up again and you will cry again.

 

From this point on, I fought more with my groomㅠ I cried so hard I felt like I was going to vomit.

I waited for over 10 minutes, then went in to soothe and put the baby to sleep, while my husband kept insisting to leave him alone... saying nothing serious would happen.

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Whether it's a nap or a night's sleep, just watching them cry like that makes my head hurtㅠ

I was wondering if this might cause damage to my brain, as I thought, is it really necessary to ring this way for about 120 days, so I looked for some information.

No matter how much you cry, if your mother doesn't come, it can lead the child to lose trust and grow up as a child who fails and gives up.

I thought it was right. I usually should give up and go to sleep, but our baby keeps crying until he comes, so he doesn't sleepㅠ Until he comes, it's overㅠ

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Even after the teething started, I thought it was teething pain and held her tighter to soothe her to sleep.

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Yeah, let's just hold Ulba like this and put him to sleep quickly. Since we're going to put him to sleep anyway, why bother making him cry and then calming him down? I want to sleep, but I can't because he's crying.

It's just that we can't sleep better and it's hard for both of usㅠ If I don't hold you now, when will I hold you~

It must hurt here, so I should hug you♡ㅠ and I start to hug and lull you to sleep..ㅠ I thought hugging was easy.

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But I didn't sleep well recently; I took three naps during the day and only one at night, each lasting about 1 to 2 hours. I keep tossing and turning and can't settle down, so I have to keep moving around.ㅠ

The problem is that I did this for about 10 days, and it gradually became heavier, and I feel like I might get a herniated disc, with my whole body hurting all day long.

Currently, it's 6.5kg, so I used that as a reference, but later I wasn't confident about itㅠㅠ

Sorry, but I want to lie down and sleep again. Can you stay with me and gently soothe me if I cry?

 

Lullabies/white noise/patting, now nothing works and if I just lay them down, they cry a lotㅠ

I can't even sit and hug, I have to stand and dance until I get tiredㅠ Even when I lie down and complain, I cryㅠ

One way was to lie down immediately after falling asleep, but now I have to brush my teeth before sleeping, so I don't think I can do it..

When I looked up sleep education books and the internet, most of them talked about establishing a sleep routine, putting the child to bed early, and encouraging continuous sleep.

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Sleep consciousness is at 6 o'clock after bathing, and at 7 o'clock, while holding the baby, lullaby.

Deep sleep lasts from 8 o'clock, with a feeding at dawn around 5 o'clock, until waking up at 8 o'clock; once he falls into a deep sleep, he sleeps continuously for about 10 hoursㅠ

How should I deal with temper tantrums? Please help me.

 

The groom still follows the "Leave it as it is" principle (perhaps the "Perbur Law?"), so I asked him to just hug me instead.

We fought again and I ended up apologizingㅠ So I'm even more stressedㅠ It's so hard.

 

What should I try again for sleep training? Should I hold him now because he's crying?ㅠ

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Yesterday, I was crying and screaming loudly, and I finally managed to fall asleep.

The baby still sleeps in late often, haha. I lay down and vented a long story 😂

I would be so grateful to the world if only you would sleep wellㅠ Baby♡