My experience dating a girlfriend with Asperger's syndrome, and our breakup

My first love, which has been five years now, was with a girlfriend who has Asperger's syndrome. At first, I didn't know she had Asperger's syndrome when we met. I was attracted to her colorful and challenging personality, but later, differences in emotional expression and communication styles greatly affected our relationship... At the time, I couldn't understand my girlfriend, but after breaking up, looking back, I realize I learned and grew a lot through that process. Haha

 

 

When I first started dating my girlfriend with Asperger's syndrome, I was attracted to her unique perspective and straightforward way of speaking, so I decided to pursue her. Her special way of viewing the world sometimes felt very refreshing. During the first few months, we argued and tried to understand each other's differences, just like any other couple, haha. Then I found out that she has Asperger's syndrome. Going through difficult times together with her made our relationship deepen. I also continued to learn about the condition and came to understand her way of showing interest and affection.

 

However, as time went on, the emotional distance and communication difficulties caused by Asperger's syndrome became increasingly overwhelming. I was also in a financially difficult situation at the time, which made me more sensitive. I had no mental space... My girlfriend struggled with expressing her emotions, and during conversations, she sometimes missed non-verbal cues. As a result, when I needed comfort, her reactions often differed from what I expected, and I was sometimes hurt, gradually becoming exhausted.

 

 

During the time we spent together, our understanding of Asperger's syndrome deepened, but conflicts often arose due to our different communication styles and emotional expressions. The gap caused by these conflicts continued to widen... Eventually, we thought it would be difficult to maintain the relationship, so we broke up. We had love, affection, and trust for each other, but at that time, both of us were young and lacked the composure, so rather than overcoming our differences, we seemed to give up.

 

Ultimately, I chose to part ways, but the time I spent with her, who was special, allowed me to experience a variety of emotions and I believe it was an opportunity to learn how to understand different worlds. Even after the breakup, the lessons I learned from my girlfriend's positive qualities remain precious memories to me and still part of my life habits, haha.

 

My girlfriend had exactly this kind of mindset! Lucky Vicky mindset? Haha

 

My girlfriend with Asperger's syndrome was simply someone with slightly more unique and colorful emotions than others. Although we broke up, I still believe she is doing well and I wish her happiness.