“Stop comparing!”… To boost self-esteem, stay away from ‘this’ first!

 

 

Raising self-esteem is not easy. No matter how much you resolve to improve by reading books or listening to lectures, when the moment of choice actually arrives, you often revert to your old habits of low self-esteem due to inertia. However, having healthy self-esteem can make a tremendous difference in the quality of life, so it is highly recommended that you make this change.

There are five ways to help boost self-esteem. Keep them in mind and put them into practice, as they are things you can start with in your daily life. Based on materials from Better Up, an American mental health coaching platform, we introduce good habits for building healthy self-esteem.

 

Let's write down the things about myself that I am proud of.

 

Thinking about your own good points can feel embarrassing. However, if you take the time to reflect on and write down your strengths and achievements, you can develop an attitude of self-acceptance. Keeping a gratitude journal can also help change your perspective on life positively and foster a positive mindset. In particular, writing down things you are proud of about yourself allows you to read them whenever negative thoughts occasionally arise, helping you shake them off.

Let's stop trying to please the other person.

 

People with low self-esteem find it extremely difficult to refuse requests from others. It is to the point where they feel more at ease granting such requests, no matter how physically demanding it may be. People with low self-esteem often prioritize helping others, even at the cost of their own personal sacrifice. However, this can ultimately lead to dependence on others, resulting in even greater stress.

 

Even if you want to help, you must cultivate the habit of taking care of yourself first. In fact, trying to gain self-esteem by being useful can ultimately have the negative effect of further lowering your self-esteem. You must always remind yourself that it is okay not to be loved by others. Now, let's practice how to say "no."

 

Let's step out of our comfort zone.

 

People with low self-esteem tend to avoid new challenges and unexpected opportunities. This is due to fear or self-doubt. However, since small achievements can lead to great success, it is worth taking on challenges. As the sense of accomplishment from completing even small things builds, it leads to self-esteem and acts as the driving force to continue pursuing new challenges. It is important to remember that you should not assume that stepping outside your comfort zone leads to discomfort. Just try taking on challenges with a light heart, as if you are simply trying something new.

 

Let's never compare ourselves to others.

 

You must not compare your own progress with that of others. No matter how capable you are, there will always be someone better than you. Just because there is someone better than you does not mean you are inferior. Everyone has a different rate of growth and varying levels of ability. If you use others as your standard of evaluation, your own achievements may feel insignificant. This leads to a decline in self-esteem, so let us never compare ourselves to others.

 

Staying away from social media is also an option. Let's keep in mind that people share their best selves online. We don't go around telling everyone that we go to work or sleep. Instead, we share the occasional good things that happen that we don't usually get to do.

Because they cannot stand on their own and have low self-esteem, they develop a desire to remain connected with others, even if only online. Since this can lead them to exaggerate or boast about their happiness beyond what they actually feel, let's not believe everything we see on social media. It is also a good idea to practice reducing your exposure to social media through a digital detox.

 

Setting a 'line', a boundary that protects me

 

Boundaries refer to a line that protects oneself while respecting the other person's territory. While violence is generally perceived only as disregarding others or physical violence, crossing this 'line' to become excessively involved or dependent can also function as emotional violence. To prevent this, it is important to establish boundaries that protect one's integrity.

 

You need to consider the boundaries you are willing to accept, both personally and socially. You also need to think about how you will react when people cross those boundaries. Even unintentionally, crossing the line can always happen. Setting boundaries is a way to prevent others from controlling or exploiting you, and it is a practice of firmness.

 

While the way boundaries are set at work may differ, it is important to practice drawing lines even in the workplace. You must not forget that protecting yourself is always the priority.

 

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Self-esteem is one of the really important aspects.

If this gradually drops,

Why am I exploding with irritation like this?

My motivation has gone all the way to the other world~

 

How is your self-esteem?

Do you think you are managing it well?

 

Let's share ways to boost self-esteem