5-month-old twin mom: "My in-laws came over and I heard they said I didn't prepare food for them," causing a fuss

What do you think about this article?ㅠㅠ

Sigh... If it's twins... it must be really hard...

It really feels heartbreaking ㅠㅠ

I'm really very angry..

They say they barely manage to eat one meal a day after 8 PM...

Are you saying that you are gossiping behind someone's back?

Oh.. I haven't slept or eaten.. Please help me a bit..

You stayed for three days and then left?

 

A woman raising five-month-old twins shared her story with her in-laws and expressed her hardships.

On the 17th, an online community posted a message titled "Visited by in-laws while raising twins, couldn't serve a meal."

Mr. A, who has 5-month-old twins, started by saying, "My in-laws visited, and they scolded me for only looking after the baby and not setting the table."

He said, "The children don't eat well and don't sleep well. They wake up 2 to 3 times in the early morning for feeding, and they take naps in 20 to 30-minute segments, so they are always sleep-deprived."

Next, she said, "To consider my husband's commute, I always take care of the early mornings on weekdays, and when my husband comes home from work, I immediately wash and put the baby to sleep. After putting the baby to bed, I barely manage to have one meal after 8 p.m. at night."

He stated, "In the end, I spend almost the entire day taking care of the children alone and can't even eat properly, so I am constantly sleep-deprived and my energy is running out throughout the week. My husband works at a company, so I have no complaints about his participation in childcare."

Mr. A recently found out through her husband that her parents-in-law, who stayed at her house for three days, were gossiping behind her back, saying she was bragging about raising children.

According to Mr. A, during the four days when his parents from his hometown were visiting, he was able to sleep in late, eat regular meals prepared by his parents, and take some rest.

On the other hand, when the parents-in-law visited, the baby was unusually fussy and couldn't sleep, so I was exhausted. He said, "My parents-in-law slept in late, so I was stuck in the room with the babies and couldn't go out. They said they wouldn't eat breakfast and told me to handle it myself, so I ordered sandwiches and ate together."

Then he said, "Since you've eaten and are full, you don't have to eat lunch, so let's have dinner instead." Throughout the time at home, my father-in-law didn't watch the baby and only looked at his mobile phone, while my mother-in-law kept saying, "You're pretty, you're pretty," but she didn't help with childcare like my own parents; she just kept staring.

Still, I have no complaints about not receiving help with childcare. Since it's my child, it's natural for me to take care of them, and I am grateful just to have my parents watch over. But I happened to see my husband chatting with his younger brother on KakaoTalk, and there were some things he said that made me wonder if this is right.

The message contained content such as "You don't even treat me to a meal and just watch the child, so what's so hard about that?" "I saw that you (husband) are the one bathing the child, so what's so difficult?" "While I was raising the child, I did everything I was supposed to do for my parents-in-law, but the daughter-in-law just watches the child and does nothing."

Mr. A lamented, "Is it my lack of ability? I don't have the time or strength to even prepare my own meals while taking care of the twins. But how am I supposed to prepare a meal for my parents-in-law as well?"

Next, the mother-in-law raised three sons. She always says, "I raised three children, so what's the big deal about two." I wonder if it's because I'm truly a twin who doesn't eat or sleep, so I lack time and have no pain-free spots. Should I have been the one to set the table? I asked for her opinion.

Netizens responded with comments such as, "If a 5-month-old baby doesn't eat or sleep well even with just one child, their energy would be completely drained, so what kind of meal is this," "Even being a full-time parent, raising twins is difficult," and "My second child is a twin. I remember it was hard just to put a spoonful of rice in my mouth at that time."

 

<Source: Moneyz>